Wednesday, June 01, 2005

Topic of Interest: Funeral

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Funeral..a topic considered taboo by many..and why am i talking about it now..coz i had just attended one on sunday..

Indian funeral always been something i dread to attend...not because of having the pressure of meeting all my relations there..it is because the way it is being conducted...and no..i am not only talking about the traditional ceremony..i am talking about the conduct of people attending the funeral as well..

Well..in this particular funeral which i attended..things became were rather chaotic when an elderly woman came to the scene...oh boy...screaming the dead man's name from the road itself!! Can you imagine that? yea..we all sad when sumone passed away..but then, i can't find any logic behind her frantic screams..The minute she entered the funeral house..she began to single out each and every people there as not visiting the man when he was alive but turned up for his funeral instead!! Errrkk..if like that, i need to spend at least 5 hours each day to visit each and every person i know to make sure i had seen them all at least one a month..People should turn up in a funeral to show respect to the person who had left us..Thats about it..

Again, that reminds me of my grandfather's funeral couple of years ago..this particular lady actually ran from the road, crying and screaming and at the end..basically slept beside my grandfather!! I don't know in which part of world, u actually show your respect in funeral this way..

If all these happened because they are 'very sad' that the person left us..I can forgive them..but then, the funny thing is when they will cry, lets say for about 15mins, come out of the house..sit under the canopy and start their usual chit chat..as if nothing happened! I saw this so many times now and i only feel like want to go to this people and give them one tight slap..now u can cry for real!! So, all this crying and screaming are merely to 'spice' up the funeral?? I don't know how i am suppose to address these people..(sigh..)

I simply don't know when these people going to attend a funeral in a more civilized manner...

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5 comments:

Anonymous said...

HuHu...
Good Job Blogger...
This Is A Very Important Topic..
I Got No Comments On The Kids , Wife Or Parents Of The Person Of Passed Away...
Coz They May Do Anythin Out Of Sorrow..
But Abt These People Who Does Extra Show In N Out In The Funeral And Den Continues Wif Their Chit Chat..
HeHe Gotta Bring In Sum Rules ...

(Actors & Actress Not Allowed)

tulipspeaks said...

ah..at last we got someone sharing my view here..good..nandri dear 'anonymous'

i did receive some critism for pointing out our own community..but i would like to make my point clear..i'm merely voicing my dissatisfaction on the way our people behave in funerals..thats it..nothing personal :)

moderator_upm makkalz said...

hey amutha,wow!!!well said..i truly agree with you...i alwiz had a similar view..but never actually complained about it to anyone since evry1 was in the moment of grief..didnt want 2 offend neone at the time of funeral actually

but im so truly happy that you've voiced it out over here...

tulipspeaks said...

wooo hoooo...i got UPM makkals here..

thanks for sharing my views..yes, u r right about this..we couldn't say anything at the time of grief..but these are some things they should understand themselves...

3POINT8 said...

:P
Those are the act of older generation yes? (Back then, they don't have google, so I would forgive them for not knowing how to show respect in a funeral)

Plus, they'll all be gone soon and they'll be replaced by the younge generation who are more well-mannered. (ironic... I think i'm actually encouraging ppl to go away when someone is talking about a funeral) :P