Monday, August 01, 2005

Men & Beauty....


Is beauty is all a man look for in a woman? Do they look beyond the skin? Do they REALLY care about a woman's inner self rather than her outer look? These are questions i always ask myself..er...may be occationally :P...but i always get negative answers...

Its all about a woman's attractiveness..whether she is pretty or not..whether she is cute or not..whether she is sexy or not..sighhhh...

In Indian custom, we even have a traditional, groom's family meeting the bride's family ceremony...and all they do is to call for the bride to come forward, take a look at her and decide if they should carry on with the rest of the wedding..gggrr...she will be basically dressed up for that purpose and exhibited like a trophy...although i am glad that this custom is slowly fading away, there are men out there (i can say majority of them) who still thinks that looks precedes women's other qualities..

Doesn't her education status play a role? Doesn't her inner values play a role? Doesn't her believe in culture play a role? Doesn't her caring attitude play a role?

Am i being judgemental here? I don't know..but these are my opinion based on what is happening around me..

A dear fren of mine did stood by the men and insisted that the 'inner beauty' is what men are looking for..but i still doubt it..

I know there are couple of guys who always go through my blog, but rarely make any comments..will this make u guys to speak up? Lets see...

14 comments:

Arz000n said...

Consider this...
As a guy, I come across a gal...what wil I first look for?? Outer beauty. Right??

Only when the communication begins...will I come to knw that she is as beautiful/ugly from inside. Its not possible to make comment just by her sexiness. This understanding takes time.

Is beauty is all a man look for in a woman? Do they look beyond the skin? Do they REALLY care about a woman's inner self rather than her outer look?
Yes they do...I cant speak up for whole of male species...but yes, there are guys who respect women for there inner beauty.

there are men out there who still thinks that looks precedes women's other qualities..
No doubt. But will you get hooked up with a not-so-good-looking guy, no matter how good he is from inside?? See even females have the same problem, they judge guys from outside....or some stupid experience they must have faced in past. Is it fair??

tulipspeaks said...

welcome to my blog..

well said arz00n...you may not speak for the whole male species, but thank you for telling me that there are still SOME guys out there still have respect for women's inner beauty...

But will you get hooked up with a not-so-good-looking guy, no matter how good he is from inside?? a good question..i am still looking for THE person..i will let u know soon, yaar :)

thanks for dropping by...and HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY!!

Anonymous said...

lol

Keshi said...

hey Amu great post! Thought-provoking n very interesting topic :)

well I think like z000nie said, most guys n gals go for looks at the beginning...first impressions matter (n most of the time the first impression is the looks)... but once they get to know each other the real beauty will be revealed. So after that it's upto the man/woman to stick around with who they chose...

Men r more hormone-driven than women :) They look at a pretty woman more than a woman would stare at a good-looking guy. That's nature. I have had so many men staring at me and sometimes it's really embarassing! Believe me I'm not bragging here that I'm pretty but men really look at women alot. We cant blame em - God made em that way n if there's eye candy why not look? :) But beauty is not always IT...n there r men who u'sstand this n they love women who r beautiful inside...I have handsome friends who r married to women who r totally the opp in looks.

So it really depends on the individual. Some falls for looks, some for qualities, some for both...but looks DOES matter(for love, marriage or anything else), it's the bitter reality. Men would do anything for a pretty woman. Go to store n u'll see men flocking by a pretty customer while not-so good-looking women dun get much service..it's nature. Where there's something beautiful, there's attention.

tulipspeaks said...

thank you keshi..

I have had so many men staring at me and sometimes it's really embarassing! Believe me I'm not bragging here that I'm pretty but men really look at women alot. ...Ahem ahem..hehehe

Men would do anything for a pretty woman....you call this nature but then it is still sad to see a statement like this..Is this one of the reason we find mostly women advertising most of the products in the market? Pretty girls are needed everywhere..right from marketing a product to... accompanying the wrestlers in WWF to..walk around in ultra-mini skirt during F1 in Sepang Circuit, Kuala Lumpur (and i think it is the same elsewhere)

hmm..what will arz00n (or any other men) say about this? :)


ah..the battle had just begun!! hehehe..just kidding..

Arz000n said...

See, you are now totally messing up things. Having pretty gals in WWE and in F1 in Sepang Circuit, Kuala Lumpur is totally different from wht as an individual pretty gals life is.

Like Keshi said, her beauty is making guys stare at her...but do they know tht she holds awesome kick-in-balls power inside her too? Naaah...

women advertising most of the products in the market
If I'm running a business of advertising, I cant go for an ugly chik (is there anything called as UGLY CHIC in first case?) and make losses in my business. I think you'll also do the same.

Again one Q for you, will you go for an ugly-stud for marketing your products? I dont think so...so why put up blames on guys...not fair

Arz000n said...

I think beauty and ugliness is like RACISM. You cant call anyone pretty or ugly..yukkk, how bad is that

Chill down!!

tulipspeaks said...

okie okie..talking about girls in WWF and F1 may be slightly out of the topic..

but my point is still there...beauty sells..beauty is the men wants..

Arz000n said...

Why are you ponting fingers at MEN lady? Comeon....yes in loud volume its beauty and women and blah blah blah

But you haven;t said anything about handsome guys. Would you take the risk of hiring ugly-hunk for your marketing? No na?

So can I say now...hunks are wht women wants??

tulipspeaks said...

Would you take the risk of hiring ugly-hunk for your marketing? no i won't..but again..look at the ratio..how many adverts focusing on pretty women and how many using male models??

--pearl-- said...

hey amutha..
For starters,now if you see,(actully ive only heard)..even if its an arranged marraige,atleast the girl n d guy spend sum time together before they get married or engaged...
I think if i was a guy,ok,mayb i look at how the girl looks,but then after marraige its not her looks thats gonna count rite?she mite be the most beautiful girl,but she may fite a lot,doesnt co-operate,demands too much..etc.. so i think its not only beauty that counts..i mean even when you look at sumone (same gender or opp gender)for the first time,you form a mental image of them,consiously or subconciously...but..
I think men who choose thier wives ONLY on the basis of looks, are well,dumb..

tulipspeaks said...

hey pearl..

welcome to my blog..

I think men who choose thier wives ONLY on the basis of looks, are well,dumb..

yes they are..and that is what i am seeing around me now..don't blame me for being feminist here..but my opinions are based solely on my experience..

if there are still guys out there who still sees a woman's inner self..then, they have all my due respect!

Arz000n said...

I think anyone would like to see a pretty chick rather than a hunk in an advertisement.
What say?
Infact gals should feel proud about it. I think to feel proud you need to remove the fact that its "lust" that guys are looking for in that pretty face, else this post will go in endless debate.

Keshi said...

lolz z000nie ok ok we know u like pretty babezz :)
so wud any guy. Yep but like amu stated what really matters is what's inside...altho I still say that beauty sells...it's the harsh truth.

Like Pearly stated for marriage u got to choose someone beautiful both in n out...n like z000nie stated there's no such thing as an ugly ckick...ever woman is beautiful in her own unique way.

End of subject na? :)
Keshi.