Sunday, October 09, 2005

Princess Without A Tiara


Lately, I have been experiencing scores of questions on my marriage..and NO NO i'm not getting married...its my friends, schoolmates who are settling down..

Well, I'm 25 and not attached at this age is somewhat fast becoming a juicy rumor/news..The standard scenario will be something like this:

Scene: A packed family function (usually an engagement ceremony, or a wedding, or a family gathering)

An aunty : Hi ammu, how are you? Those days you used to be so small. Big gal now huh?
Me : Yes aunty. I'm fine (grinning)

Aunty : So, how old are you now? Where are you working?
Me : 25 now. No, I'm not working aunty. Doing my masters now.

Aunty : Oh, still studying? Masters huh? Thats good. So, are you seeing anyone in campus?
Me : No aunty.

Aunty : No?? You have any plans to settle down or not? You are already 25 now!
Me : See first, aunty. Still got little more to study. Few more years. And then I think of settling down.

Aunty : Study some more??
blah...blah..blah...


No, I'm not going to ask you guys when is the right age to get married..i already got the question answered..but I'm just going to share my lovely life in my mother's home which i have to leave one day..It is one of the reasons I'm reluctant to get married so soon..

I remember growing up in a home with lots of greens..we used to have two mango trees right infront of the house, and another two at the backyard. There was this huge tree (which i don't know the name) that my granny tied a rope and made a swing for me..

I remember one day my dad bought a packet of balloons (consists around 100pc of balloons) for me..but I was too young and don't know how to blow a balloon. I had my late grandpa struggled hard to blow them for me..

I remember coming back home after staying in the hostel for 2 weeks (that was the first time i stayed away from home) and my granny & mommy hugged me so tight..I almost cried in their arm..

I remember so many things here..memories which cannot be substitute even with millions of dollars..my home..my room...my workstation...my bed...my sofa..

I, being the first born in the 4th generation, the apple of everyone's eye..even after my sister was born, I am still the one everyone will pamper..even till this moment..

I'm getting everything here..there is no worries..there is no problems..

My home, my heaven..its my little country where i'm the princess, a princess without a tiara..



32 comments:

Arz000n said...

Me first!!

Cant believe it :O

southpaw said...

Beautifull title...:)
***I'm just going to share my lovely life in my mother's home which i have to leave one day..It is one of the reasons I'm reluctant to get married so soon..***thats perfectly okay, but i am sure the feelings wud change once u find ur soul-mate...:)
***I'm getting everything here..there is no worries..there is no problems..***Thats good to know amutha, but we dont get married to get rid of our problems and worries...:)so think about it more objectively.
And above all the scene which u have mentioned, it must be quite irritating at times, isn't it???:)

L said...

3rd..!! "I m feeling lucky" ..The google style..

I smell a juicy post ..shall read it soon..!!!

pithaly said...

One post late, but must be sid:

Why guitars are better .....
...
...
...
than Women!


* Guitars don't get pregnant.
* You can play your Guitar any time of the month.
* Guitars don't have parents.
* Guitars don't whine... unless you want them to.
* You can share your Guitar with your friends.
* Guitars don't care how many other Guitars you've played
* Guitars don't care how many other Guitars you have.
* Guitars don't care if you look at other Guitars.
* Guitars don't care if you buy Guitar magazines.
* You'll never hear, "Surprise, you are going to proud father of a new Guitar" unless you go out to buy one yourself.
* If your Guitar is flat you can fix it.
* Your Guitar doesn't care if you never listen to it.
* Your Guitar won't care if you leave up the toilet seat.
* You don't have to be jealous of the guy who works on your Guitar.
* If you say bad things to your Guitar, you don't have to apologize before you play it again.
* You can play your Guitar as long as you want and it won't get sore.
* You can stop playing your Guitar as soon as you want and it won't get frustrated.
* Your parents won't remain in touch with your old Guitar after you dump it.
* Guitars don't get headaches.
* Guitars don't insult you if you're a bad player.
* Your Guitar never wants a night out with the other Guitars.
* Guitars don't care if you're late.
* You don't have to take a shower before you play your Guitar.
* If your Guitar doesn't look good you can refinish it or get new parts.
* You can play your Guitar the first time you meet it, without having to take it to dinner, see a movie, or meet its mother.
* The only protection you have to wear when playing your Guitar is a decent thumb pick.
* When in mixed company, you can talk about what a great time you had the last time you played your Guitar.

and last, but not least:

* If you decide to part with an old Guitar, you don't have to give up half of everything you own.

Johnny B. Good said...

Johnny B. Good said...
Follow the leader, leader
Follow the leader,

Follow the leader, leader
Follow the leader,

7:35 PM


Johnny B. Good said...
Nothing.



dat guy and all the rest in front of him

were later fished out from a cess pool

7:36 PM

Johnny B. Good said...

Pithly and his guitar are both crazy




.

4u2nvau/Rohit said...

Really you shouldn't get married unless your ready for it. If you wana study more, then good for you, you do what you want.

visithra said...

Nice post - don't let aunties push u into anything u dont want to do - theres loads of time dear ;)

Divya said...

beautiful post amu... yeah i know.. these nody aunties are a pain.. seriously and so i dont like goin for wedding or ne other functions..."wot do u do? wots ur age? so wot next? are the common quest's ...n i get irritated... its none of their business wot we n do n wen we do..

hugzzzz... like rohit said.. till ur ready dont get married..

Łóòň Ġãĺ said...

Aww amuthz....tht was so well written........moreover others dont have the right to decide as to when YOU wanna get married.....there isnt any specific age when one SHOULD get married....!!

I loved how u beautifully u have described ur life....tiz same with every girl....and then tiz really sad that she has to leave HER house, HER parents....which in the eyes of the so called 'society' was never HERS!

Plus the title u've given is too good!! Princess without a tiara! Aww how lovely!

Rock on babez! Muuuah

tulipspeaks said...

@ z000nie

a special muaaaaaaaaaxxxxxxxxxx for being the first!


@ south
but i am sure the feelings wud change once u find ur soul-mate...:)
well south, meeting a soul mate will be memorable and sweet experience..but i don't think i'll will be blurred by love till i forget my own home :P

but we dont get married to get rid of our problems and worries
we don't get married to get rid of anything..and if we do, the marriage doesn't have meaning..i understand that..
what i was trying to say is that i'm happy in my home..nothing to worry about, i mean nothing to be called a HUGE responsibility here...thats what i mean..

And above all the scene which u have mentioned, it must be quite irritating at times
lolz..talk about the scene which i really want to avoid all the time!


@ L
lolz..L..you better come back to read the whole post soon :P


=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ pithly

hmm..not a great analogy..lolz..neway, you could have commented in the earlier post..no harm actually


=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ n000nie

aww...i wonder if "someone" would wait for me if i wanna study for another couple of years..*wink wink



@ visithra

lolz..aunties thaan seriyana thollai..so hard to avoid them nah? yea..i blv i got lot of time in hand..but my mom don't think so..hehehehe



@ divya

yeah i know.. these nody aunties are a pain.. seriously and so i dont like goin for wedding or ne other functions...
awww...seems like i'm not the only gal 'affected' with these aunties..*sigghhhhh



@ cheesy

she has to leave HER house, HER parents....which in the eyes of the so called 'society' was never HERS!
beautifully said, cheesy..*clappsssss for cheesy..

Plus the title u've given is too good!! Princess without a tiara! Aww how lovely!
*am000nie blushes



=am000nie=

Michelle said...

awww...sweetest post eva!!

well dunno whatz da right age ta get married
depends on person to person actually :D

but ur reasons r right u still hav ur whole life ahead of u
take ur time princess ;)

tc
mua

Michelle said...
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PuNeEt said...

Oh dear that’s so sweet post…
I know its so tough on part of a girl to leave her house and get adjusted to a new house n new family altogether…
Chooo chweeeet

Plzzz don’t mind let me add my version to it

An aunty : Hi, how are you? Those days you used to be so small. Big gal now huh?
Reply:… ye aunty u also used to be soo thin… fat lady now ;-)

So, are you seeing anyone in campus?
a lot other guyz n gals… got bored seeing the same faces every day

Ok ok…peace out…
Take care
Cheers

Dewdrop said...

Hi Amutha
yeah dont get married until you are ready. Enjoy living with your parents, thats the best days of a girl's life.

lol those aunties are too much, they wont let you be at peace. When you are young and single, they are worried abt hitching you. Next when you are hooked and settled, they are worried why you dont have kids yet. Finally when you have kids, and they grow to be naughty and play mischief with these aunties, they go crazy cursing you and yr kids..

strawy said...

i just wonder!!! y is it always a gal who has to leave her house, y cant a guy move into gals house... n these auntiesss they r justt too much re,u r not alone am000nie , every gal face such problem...
spareeee us auntiesss !!!!


st000nie

:) said...

mmm very true am00 we all face this kinda situation .. even whn i went home last time.. it was marriage season there... so almost everyday we used to attend sm functions... n then guess wht... i face almost same Qs.. or u can say worse bcoz u still hv point na that u studying.. i dont hv ny reason to give to those lovely aunties :P
but its really irritating we keep smiling outside n inside its like ..ohhh aunty give me a break.. hehehe

huggzzzzzzz

:)

tulipspeaks said...

@ michelle

but ur reasons r right u still hav ur whole life ahead of u
take ur time princess ;)

aww..i wish i hear the same from mom and aunties :D

thank you dear..



@ puneet
I know its so tough on part of a girl to leave her house and get adjusted to a new house n new family altogether…
aww..well,if every man realise how hard it is on our part, things will get lot more easier..don't you think?

lolz..your version made me to think of a joke:

An aunty asked the gal in a wedding function "are you the next?". The gal smiled.

After couple of days, they meet again in a funeral whr the gal ask the aunty "are you the next?"



=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ dewdy

Enjoy living with your parents, thats the best days of a girl's life.
yes, you bet..and i'm enjoying every minute here..


lolz..yea..when u are single, they wanna marry u off..then its kids..and then, the second child..after that complain about the kids..then, we will realise that we shouldn't have listen to them in the first place!




@ st000nie

lolz..you want to have a husband living with your family? the percentage of those willing to do that is very low. guess its better we make a deal so that we get to live alone..i mean not with either family..fair enough?



@ pari

ah..pari, no gal is spared from these aunties' eyes.. lolz..


muuaxxx and hugsss to all

=am000nie=

visithra said...

Cheh which moms think so - life would be so easy if they agreed we're too young to get married yet ;p hehehe

Zombie said...

Thankfully, my folks don't bother me too much yet - I have threatened to run away from home. But, they keep dropping hints every now and then.

hehe...nice post :-)

yayyyyy amutha...complete ur masters...U go, girl!

Marry when u want to.

Hail girl power!

4u2nvau/Rohit said...

Yehhhhhh as long as you girls take your time with studies, us men are safer :)

nyzillestpunjabi said...

i wonder if someone would wait for me cuz i wana keep studyin :p

Amutha ( my honey ) how u doin.. yeah i think u shudnt get married till u noe the person for atleast 2-3 yrs..noe its good n bad habbits.. understand eachother express urself see if u can handle eachothers moods n stuff.. so yeah i wud say get hooked now n den think bout marriage .. u still got time don worrie.. find ur one n only n be like get to noe me till i finish studyin..

:)

tulipspeaks said...

@ visithra

which mom doesn't think that way? hmm..may be when we become mothers, we will do the same!



@ zombie

I have threatened to run away from home.
omg!! aik..wait a min..it sounds like a fantastic idea!!!

cheersssssssssss babe!
but then, what happen to your blog? you restricted the comments? is there something wrong?


=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

oh come on n000nie..you saying you lot more safer now?? hehehehe...


=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ zillie

lolz..i laugh each time you call me "my honey"..i'm doing fine here..hope you are okie too..

i think u shudnt get married till u noe the person for atleast 2-3 yrs.
well, thats what i told my mom..said "you can find a groom for me..no harm..but you must give me 2 years prior to marriage..just for me to get to know him better" and the reply i got was negative..mom said it will never happen in an arranged marriage..this is the exact reason why i dread arranged marriage..

=am000nie=

Invincible said...

Follow ur heart n dont care for the rest. It's your life after all.

just bcos u luv ur home n have all the fond memories to cherish, shudnt be the prime reason of not getting hooked up... a random thought.

BTW i saw ur blog on 360 degree :)
also listened to the song, it swings its mood suddenly, liked it :)

visithra said...

nah i dont seem to do that to my cousins - so im hoping i never do that to my children ;p

arranged marriage - scare ur mom that nowadays mils are so possessive of their sons they prefer the son remains single then have a wife even after marriage. so it is best u get to know the person first - though i think the most ud get is 10 months

tulipspeaks said...

invincible

just bcos u luv ur home n have all the fond memories to cherish, shudnt be the prime reason of not getting hooked up.

well..it is not a factor which will PREVENT me from getting hooked up..but it is a factor i will have to consider in making the right choice..the right choice it means..someone who could understand these bond which i am talking about..the bond, we the gals have with our home.. :)

i'm glad you enjoyed the song..its by a local artist, Reshmonu :)

=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

visithra

10 months? i guess thats the most i can get, like you said..

btwn, athe eppadi ivalavu correct ta soluringe? experience ah?lolz..


=am000nie=