Sunday, April 30, 2006

01-02-03-04-05-06

Waking up from my hibernation, going through the bloggies of my buddies, scanning forums and group message boards, I can only come to one conclusion: HATRED RULES!.

I see friends turning into foes. I see two strangers hurling abusive words to each other. I see a group of so-called friends abusing one person who is all by him/herself. I see HOSTILITY. I see ALIENATION. I see ENIMITY. I see REVULSION. I see TEARS. I see BLOOD.

This is not what I want to see.

You hate someone? You loath to see his/her face again? You deafen yourself whenever someone mentioned his/her name? If you answered yes to any of these, tell me WHY? Is the reason good enough for you to let go the friendship you once had? Is the reason valid enough to hurt each other's heart? Is the reason is merely an excuse to cover up your own mistake?

I'm no Mother Theresa. I got hurt and I know I've hurt others too. I do get angry. I do curse at people. I do wish someone got burnt in hell. I'm not denying it. But now, I've come to a point where I realise this got me no where. What will I get if I continue to do this? What benefit it brings to me? to him/her? to others? What if I didn't wake up from sleep tommorrow and I never had the chance to say what I really wanted to? What if he/she never got to know how I really feel about him/her? What if....

I read an article today. It was about a husband who missed his wife's funeral. Know why? Because he had an argument with her (about his 'emotional' infidelity) and switch-off his mobile after that. She, on the other hand, had an heart attack and died during the surgery. No one could reach the husband on time and by the time he got to know about it, its too late. She was already cremated. She donated all her organs, wrote a will leaving a huge amount of money for him to settle his debt, made her family to promise not to hate him and wrote a letter for him asking him to send off their only son to Canada. Sounds like Bollywood movie plot? Nah.. Its a true story and happened right here in Malaysia.













Life is short, make it sweet. We have heard it many times. Did any of us look beyond these words? Life may be as short as it can be. I might not be here tommorrow. So are you. Make the best of it.


Be polite. Be loving. Be considerative. Be HUMAN.




4th May 2006, 1.02.03 am. Its a special moment, that only comes once and we are lucky to live it. Treat this as the moment of your life. Pick up your phone, call him/her. Leave a message in his/her blog. Send him/her an e-mail. Stop this WAR now. Make the date a special one.


29 comments:

praveen said...

welcome bk..seems like im the first one here...or not??

well i do hate someone...as 4 now..for causing great agony to my friend after she has done soo much for her..my friend was nice enough to give her a place once the "villi" had a prob with her roomate and got chucked out of her room..soon after which she started creating prb with my fren...even almost hit her with a chair...apparently she did the same previously, thats y she got kicked out...

so...yes i HATE her...partially cause i gv her a place too...there are ppl who are ungrateful in the world..and as for both of us, I know for sure that she would get what she deserves in her life...for causing great agony to those who gave her a helping hand

southpaw said...

welcome back amutha....u r right hatred rules.

Michelle said...

my frnd passed away a few days back...it makes me think...wat was the last thing i said to her?after tht...wen my frnd is leavin fo another city,country or merely leavin for home after meetin me...i make sure we don end up in a fight...it made me think...i must tell everyone how i feel bout them cuz u never knw wat can happen ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN

PRADEEP K. said...

Welcome back Amu!
There is no happiness in hatred.

musings (m000nie) said...

welcome am00.... hiiiiiii...

welcome bak..

it is so sad about that woman who died like this... i cant imagine how her husband might be feeling about this... God give him the strength to survive without guilt

Keshi said...

WB AMUUUUUUUUUU! I Missed Ya the most...I dunno what it is, but there's something abt u that makes me miss u so much each time u go on a break Amu...Im so glad ur bak HUGGGGGGGGZ!

Amu we all hate someone or the other but usually we grow out of that hatred pretty soon...cos its no point keeping it in us and killing our own selves. I dun hate ppl but it seems alot of ppl hate me, atleast in blogs...


**I see friends turning into foes. I see two strangers hurling abusive words to each other. I see a group of so-called friends abusing one person who is all by him/herself. I see HOSTILITY. I see ALIENATION. I see ENIMITY. I see REVULSION. I see TEARS. I see BLOOD.

ur right..I was subjected to this in recent weeks when u were away...Im not saying I was all innocent and I shouldnt have been cornered etc...but I didnt do anything wrong to any of them...and then suddenly bullets r coming my way and that too from ppl who claimed to be my 'good' friends. They all backed off from being my friend, and only God knows why. Im not sad..cos I still have u and few others who value me as a person. I will be here for those few who dun just push me away fro the sake of it...


That story of that woman was sad...very sad...I wonder how her busband is going to live with that for the rest of his life. Recently I have felt the urge to write a will too..I dunno why but I have felt it. I think it's best to be ready anyways...cos u know, as u said, life is short :) Atleast for my blog mates, they'll have my blog to remember me...

mwahhhhhhh!
Keshi.

Arz000n said...

Welcome back sweety!!

Nice to see you on blogworld and hope to see u here for sometime now....hugzzzzz....

hmmmm....

HATRED RULES!!
Thts true....though I neva abused anyone on blog world..but yes, have turned ma back on few blogs...just coz I dont feel like visiting them anymore now...that passion is all gone...I dont hate those bloggers as such, but I dont visit blogs where I am not respected for whoeva I am..thts it...

But yes in real life, I do hate few people and I avoid having any sort of conversation with them....avoid crossing their path basically...

And that article was touching...not good on what tht husband did....anyways...

Greetz!!!

tulipspeaks said...

@ praveen

hugssss... being the first to greet me in my blog after my break. ;)


i suppose thats a little confession from ur side. to hate sumone is human, to forgive is divine. don't u think so ma? and i feel the greatest embarassment u can cause to her will be forgiving her.

just a personal opinion. :)





@ south

thanks dear. it rules, but its in our hand to fight back. what ya think?




@ michelle

hugsss dear. i'm so sorry to hear this news :( :(

but u know what? thats my exact point. what if the person is no loner with us? what would we feel then? or what if we r no longer here? what kinda memory we will leave?

yes, ANYTHING CAN HAPPEN...


hugsss to all

=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ pradeep

there are people who rejoice in hurting people and hating others. no matter how absurd it may sound, there are people with that kinda mentality. and this is what i hope to address.


@ m000nie

heyyyyyy.. hugssss :) thanks dear

thats a sad story, but isn't it amazing to see that she didn't hate her husband till the very end? she didnt even let anyone else to hate him..thats a divine character. i'm sure she would be smiling from Heaven now.



@ keshi

I dunno what it is, but there's something abt u that makes me miss u so much each time u go on a break Amu

ice thaane? :P just kidding.. i miss u alot too.. seems like i missed ur posts as much as i missed u.. will read all of them soon..


cos its no point keeping it in us and killing our own selves.

yes, this is very true. there is simply no point holding grudge. its going to eat us up..sooner or later.


I was subjected to this in recent weeks when u were away...I

hmm.. i understand whats going on. u know i do.. and i feel the best way is to let things to cool down. and to forgive. same goes to those who have issues with u. they also should forgive. i say forgive, not forget. why? bcoz we should always remember what happened.. and not to repeat it in anyway in the future.

as i said.. 01-02-03-04-05 is a significant time/date.. why not make it a moment to be cheerished?

got what i mean? :)

hugsss

=am000nie=

tulipspeaks said...

@ z000nie

i thought i told sumone to check out my post last nite itself.. *looking at z000n


have turned ma back on few blogs...just coz I dont feel like visiting them anymore now

i know..

while i agree everyone of us has our pride n dignity, do we really wanna this WAR to continue?

as sweet as i may sound, there are 2 people who hate me for now..(i dont know who, i'm refering to the poll in the first page). see, we can't be good to everyone..at least, we can try nah?

hugsss

=am000nie=

Keshi said...

z000nie I know we have talked abt this b4, like a zillion times...but I'd like to comment on one thing u said:

*** dont hate those bloggers as such, but I dont visit blogs where I am not respected for whoeva I am..thts it...


u have long left my blog...tho I dun see why, thats perfectly alright with me. btw I would like to point out to you that I never disrespected u in my blog or anywhere else. So I don't understand the base behind ur theory. Anyways to each his own.


Amu yes..I will never forget how some friends treated me here. I have forgiven but not forgotten. And some friends just 'chose' to dump me cos they cant handle me being with so many other friends in my blog. What am I supposed to do, create separate blogs for every friend I have? ppl should learn to co-exist with others and if they cant do that in the net, how hard life must be for them in reality?


Thanks and muahhhzz!

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amu...I just read this very beautiful story in Tarun's blog today...I think people who carry so much guilt, hurt, pain, anger etc for too long, should read this story...

http://www.readers-cafe.net/mlp/?p=79

basically it says how one should let go of the baggage and live in free spirit. What alot of baggage we friends carry between each of us!


Keshi.

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

hey .....

i guess the hatred is also a way of proclaiming our independence / self sufficiency etc etc etc

hatred doesnt rule ... but loneliness rules !!!

Invincible said...

I never hated anyone as much as i hate the politicians. One worse than the other. Considering the ordeal they are about to impose on the 1 Billion citizens of india.

There r moments of quarrel/disagreement/splitting hairs over trivial matters/fights but i never hated someone so much. In this world with freedom of speech, one can voice his opinions about others blatantly. And it's better to clear the matter rightaway than the seepage of smoldering loathe.

Good to see ya back Amu.
Keep smiling :)

Known Stranger said...

wow.. hmm I love to be myself and what is worth more than that being myself.

Jeevan said...

Welcome Back to blog. Life is short, make it sweet, i agree on this.

tulipspeaks said...

For God-sake, please understand what my post means..

I meant to bring peace & why i feel its not doing any good? I feel awful.


@ keshi

basically it says how one should let go of the baggage and live in free spirit. What alot of baggage we friends carry between each of us!

ithe thaane naan solikittu iruken?

fight-upset-crying-giving up on friendship-saying sorry-friends again-fight again-upset again-.... not going to help any of us. i'm not a saint to preach, but i believe i'm a friend who can help. and thats exactly i'm trying to do.



@ deepa


i guess the hatred is also a way of proclaiming our independence / self sufficiency etc etc etc


is hatred is the only way to proclaim our independence (although i don't know how) ? surely there are other ways nah? then why wanna subject ourselves to demon's mercy?


.. but loneliness rules !!!

;) that gonna be another post altogether..



hugsss


=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ invincible

In this world with freedom of speech, one can voice his opinions about others blatantly. And it's better to clear the matter rightaway than the seepage of smoldering loathe.

not everyone understand exactly what is 'freedom of speech' means. in my opinion, problem surface when 1. one party fails to accept the others have freedom to voice out their opinion and 2. when one forgets the implication of what he/she says. is this mis-communication or pure ignorant?

even i've done mistakes. i forgot how others would perceive what i said. i forgot how others will interprete what i was trying to convey. but at the same time, not everyone respected my rights to voice out. so, whom to be blamed?

no one.


@ stranger

being urself is okie. in fact, thats what i want. everyone to be him/herself. but when others make mistake, isn't the value of 'forgiving' is instilled in us too? isn't that make ourself complete?




@ jeevan

thank u :)


hugsss


=ammu=

southpaw said...

Good to see that u think like that. Anyways i hv had my share of emotions in the blogworld, some bad ,mostly good.

Keshi said...

Amu Im sorry if by any chance I took ur post wrong..hope not :)

yes...so much of hurt between friends...and why? When we can just enjoy being ourselves w.o. hurting anyone, why all these tears?

Keshi.

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

hey ,...

the thing is no1 likes being insulted .. and when friends do , ppl react strongly ...

and the irritation continues .... it grows as we grow longer ....

and gradually , it becomes an ego clash .. u show some1 u can live w/out them (tho u cant) ... and it continues

~ v I v E k ~ said...

heyya welcome back..i read the story as well..it was pretty sad but got to add another thing..that guy was having a fling back in Singapore..hey wanna clarify something..have u ever heard about malaysia-today.net?its kinda blog but its about the independent news...Is it safe for me to post my comments over there?will it jeopardize me?cos the blog whips at the government mostly..it wont be illegal rite?please buzz me..thanks

tulipspeaks said...

@ south

mostly good? good for you, south..at least one day, u can say u made alot of good buddies here rather than enemies :)

way to go!



@ keshi

why all these tears? i don't know dear.. but i'm sure one day we gonna laugh thinking about this ;)



@ deepa

the thing is no1 likes being insulted .. and when friends do , ppl react strongly ...

thats the thing.. why would anyone insult his/her own friends? critism is okie, but insult?



@ vivek

i know the site. and i dont think its illegal. anyway,do play smart and conceal ur real identity when commenting. is it possible? if yes, then its okie.

hugss

=am000nie=

southpaw said...

yeah haven't yet found someone elligible and deserving to be my enemy.

Keshi said...

lets hope so Amu :)

Keshi.

~ v I v E k ~ said...

thanks alot:)

Maya Cassis said...

hatred...yes!made me think about someone I hated who passed away yesterday.It made me swallow my hatred and the guilt I feel today..I just cannot describe.
It made me realise life is too short to hate someone.:(

tulipspeaks said...

@ south

hahaha.. thats a cool answer buddy!



@ muuaxxing keshi like no 2moro :P



@ vivek

u r always welcome ;)



@ maya cassis

someone I hated who passed away yesterday

OMG! i'm so sorry :( :(
i knew how bad u must have felt. hugsss.. i wish i could help :(


=am000nie=

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