Tuesday, July 25, 2006

Skills & women

Nah.. I didnt mean IT skill, public speaking skill, language skill..


but...


Domestic Skills



Its 21st century but we, the womenfolk are still being judged based on our 'cooking' and 'child-bringing' skills. Pathetic..

I still have male friends who insist their wives to be homemakers, although they at the same time they insist on educated partners. When I questioned them on their sanity in expecting well-educated women sitting home cooking them breakfast-lunch-dinner-supper (at times morning snacks and tea breaks), they can only provide me with lame excuses.

And here I read a newspaper article which is rather disturbing I must say. While I'm not saying women should not cook anymore, I still feel we should be given credit for what we are striving to provide in home, while juggling with a career. Now, don't tell me "Amutha, thats why we want our wives to sit at home". I hate to debate on that issue again. What I'm trying to point out is cooking patin in fermented durian gravy and fried giant freshwater prawn in chilli gravy doesn't make a woman a better woman. It takes a broad mind to see a woman's capabilities, and not many has that capacity - admit it.

You must be thinking "ah.. this gal doesn't know how to cook!".. Partially true. I don't know how to cook typical Indian curries. I admit that. But I bake wonderful cookies and desserts. Not that they are easy to do mind you, but I just like to make them. So, in bottom line I don't know how to cook curries. Does that mean I'm less woman now?

I'm a super-woman when it comes to cleaning and organizing stuff in home. Give me an hour time - I'll turn a messy room into a tasteful cosy place. Wanna bet? :P But I hate washing clothes. Grrrr.. Thank goodness there is something called washing machine. I have no idea how to knit, but I love to cross-stiches. I love children - brought up my sis, bro n cousins. I hv no qualm in feeding them or changing their diapers. At the same time, I'm a disipline master. I believe children need to be trained to be obedient and I make steps to ensure they grow up that way (can guess how eh?). Yet, I hate kids crying loudly.

Anyone wanna judge me now?


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14 comments:

Keshi said...

Amu ur right...women r multi-talented and their men have to be able to recognise that.

**I still have male friends who insist their wives to be homemakers...

tell me abt it...I have a friend who's husband basically assumes that she's pasrt of the home-furniture...I cant beleive it! I told her to divorce him. She wouldnt listen. Anyways thats an extreme case.

But there r alot of men who appreciate various skills in their women. U just got to find one of them Amu. Not being able to cook is not a curse...if u can manage with whatever, keep the house neat n tidy, bring up the kids well and be a good wife to the hubby, then that's all there is to it.

Keshi.

visithra said...

Amu i agree too - women r multitalented - theres nothing wrong with not being able to cook - as long as u find a partner who can - but sadly u find lots of women making such comments

Its always a wonder how they expect women to work n do everything else as well - basically we women should put our foot down on the sharing of work if both are working

praveen said...

am000nie dear, by now i'm sure you'll be able to predict my comments..

seriously, it was practical in the older days for the women to sit at home and take care of domestic chores while the men went out to work. Pls note that those days it was a great chore to make a single meal or even to wash clothes since everything was manual.

Nowadays things are so much more simplified and we dont exactly need the fairer sex to park themselves at home. Btw, there's no written rule saying that men cant help around in domestic chores..those who say they can't are just plain lazy!!

Dont feel bad about not being there 24/7 for ur kids..i know it would be difficult initially..but there are many children raised with working parents ( ur speaking to one now)..and no I dont feel inferior in anyway..In fact, I was anytime more self sufficient as compared to my peers..

In a nutshell, ur hubby should support ur dreams and help out a little at home...not too much to ask for rite??

and for those who think otherwise..heres my advice..

1.Go to the shop and but a 20 cents kite

2. Go play far far away

Nanyaar? said...

I want to be a critic on the latter part of our post, it sounded more like a matrimonial ad.. ha ha.

Hey I cook you know., this one girl recently told me hey if u marry me all i'll ever cook is maggie, And I said I was fine with that.

about judging you, Im not taking that chance.. :)

Nanyaar? said...

I want to be a critic on the latter part of our post, it sounded more like a matrimonial ad.. ha ha.

Hey I cook you know., this one girl recently told me hey if u marry me all i'll ever cook is maggie, And I said I was fine with that.

about judging you, Im not taking that chance.. :)

White Forest said...

"I'm a super-woman when it comes to cleaning and organizing stuff in home. Give me an hour time - I'll turn a messy room into a tasteful cosy place. Wanna bet?"

vowww....super :P

~*. D E E P A .* ~ said...

well , personally i feel everybody should know how to cook - irrespective of whether male or female .

judging on culinary skills is what has been happ from long ago , and it continues. but many men are changing that attitude .. there are so many guys i know who are open minded and they cook while their wives are at work ...

tulipspeaks said...

@ keshi

I have a friend who's husband basically assumes that she's pasrt of the home-furniture.

i dono how one can live with such person. sad.


But there r alot of men who appreciate various skills in their women. U just got to find one of them Amu.

u still think i WANT to find one? seriously?





@ visithra

theres nothing wrong with not being able to cook

appada.. nandri ma, nandri :D


as long as u find a partner who can

well..looking at the comments by Nanyaar?.. i must agree with u here :P


we women should put our foot down on the sharing of work if both are working

this is whr the percenai starts.. ketta thaane.. hmm..



=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ praveen

lolz. yes. i know more or less what the comments gonna be like.

i think u've justify enough why women are not suppose to be confined to kitchen anymore. wonderful explanation and with a living example (you i mean).

btwn i still remember the post on ponggal that u cooked..kekeke..





@ nanyaar?

glad u r back :)

aik.. matrimonial ad ah? enna.. adi venuma? ggrrrr

hmm.. and who is tat gal huh? grrrr


:( :( :(



=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ white forest

welcome to tulipspeaks :) :)

lolz.. i hope i didnt scare u off with the super-woman thing..

kekeke..

will visit ur bloggie soon.




@ deepa

there are so many guys i know who are open minded and they cook while their wives are at work ...

how nice if i can meet any of them? :P


=ammu=

Keshi said...

dun temme u have given up on men just cos of 1 or 2 losers??

Keshi.

tulipspeaks said...

@ keshi

1 or 2 ille la.

It was just one.



=ammu=

Jeevan said...

I agree with u. then why our parents sent us to school and encourage us in what ever we wish. i belive that marrage should not make women a house-keeper, they should be free to do thier wish. Nice topic.

Keshi said...

1 loser CANT generalise the entire male-species. cmon Amu u know better than that!

Keshi.