Tuesday, August 22, 2006

Old wife vs young bride


The nation awaited an extravaganza yesterday, 10 days earlier than our ever-colourful Independence Day on 31st. It was Malaysia's pop princess (Datin Seri) Siti Nurhaliza's (better known as CT) adat nikah to Datuk Khalid Jiwa (better known as Datuk K)..telecasted 'live' via local tv station..

Malaysians are well-aware of this love saga between CT and Datuk K but it may be unknown to the others. Datuk K who is 20 years senior to CT, has just reached for divorce settlement with his first wife 2 weeks ago. He met CT couple of years ago when she performed at Royal Albert Hall in London. While she refuted the allegations that she wrecked Datuk K's marriage to his first wife, gossips surrounding them and their relationship never ends.

I don't wanna sound like a newspaper reporter. At the same time I am not expecting a surge in my blog traffic 'using' CT or Datuk K's names. Of course I am not a gossiping type either. I am just curious..

He paid millions to his first wife to dissolve their marriage. And he is still have to take care of her and their 4 sons financially (including vacations) for many years to come. Yet, he did it. But why? Why would he leave a wife of 20 yrs to be with a lady who is young enough to be his daughter. Yea, i know love is blind.. love has no boundaries.. love is that..love is this. but was love was the only reason? Datuk K-CT might be in the limelight because of their celebrity status but I am sure many of similar cases happening all over the world. While seeking for an absolute answer is impossible, I am wondering opinions that will definitely varies.

*adat nikah - solemnisation of the marriage of Muslim couples. Refer to HERE to learn more.
*Datuk and Datin Seri - honorary title conferred to Malaysians. Refer to HERE to learn more.


(Pic source: The Star)

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Ending the post with some snaps of my visit to Cameron Highlands, M'sia over the weekend.


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20 comments:

Ghost Particle said...

i would say its for money and lust. But I wont go further. There are 'lots' of yuppies and wanabees who would say no to this. But thats the truth how ever way you wanna look at it. And the 'institution' called marriage died a long time ago, never to be resurected. There are must more pressing matters in this world like waking up alive the next day and getting food on the table, so there is not sacred sanctity in life anymore.

It is a bad example to use tthis wedding as an example of older/ younger relations...hopefully one day you write something closer to our hearts and culture to explore the marriage as a definitive cultural basis for all Indians.

Keshi said...

I agree with Ghosty.

**Why would he leave a wife of 20 yrs to be with a lady who is young enough to be his daughter.

Definitely LUST. Cos a woman much younger is always more attractive...also he has the money and from what u said there doesnt seem to be anything wrong with his earlier wife. So he dumped her for LUST and that's sick.

One day his karma will pay him back.

btw Amu check my 'Virgin Updates' post...there's a pic of mine in saree n all :)

Keshi.

Keshi said...

Amu the pics r BEAUTIFUL especially the butterfly...gosh it looks like it's been painted! So pretty.

where's ur pics?

Keshi.

Fleiger said...

Sometimes, these news make you wonder whether celebrities are "ordinary people like us underneath all that" or whether they are ordinary people shown in media glare...

Anyways, great pics... Missing the greenery in Indian mountains here. That was nostalgic... (Mountains are same everywhere, right?)

Fleiger said...

Sometimes, these news make you wonder whether celebrities are "ordinary people like us underneath all that" or whether they are ordinary people shown in media glare...

Anyways, great pics... Missing the greenery in Indian mountains here. That was nostalgic... (Mountains are same everywhere, right?)

Known Stranger said...

i read it in burnei times. why should we bother - would you like to interfere with whom you flirt around. they just enjoy malking their marriage in a grand way- you do calling your own people to inform they does to the world. let us not interfere in some one perseonal interest as long as it doesnt affect us.

by they way.. i love to get in love to love with heart and soul but unfortunate.... love had not lvoe to love me

Invincible said...

when Catherine Zeta Jones married Michael Douglas ppl uttered the same celebrity popcorn stuff.

You know i kinda give these things a pass.. we know how real or how fake is the world they live in.

BTW, Awesome pics !

Vinesh said...

Hey, you have the most awesome blog template!! Its bee-yoo-tiful! Love the way your blogroll is, and the pictures dissolving in and out!

Treat to the eyes! :-)

visithra said...

Its easy to judge ppl - its easy to say marriage dont work - its easy to call ppl names - but we have no idea what actually happened - who was at fault - n rest - if we do have valid info - then im all for bitching otherwise im gonna be happy for the couple

ps : photos r lovely

praveen said...

im just sick of this whole celebrity marraige thing

White Forest said...

mmmmhh...this berry berry strawberry is tempting a lott! :)

Jeevan said...

My wishes for the Couple. The divorce can be easy for the couple, but why don’t they think it will affect their children’s future.

Photo’s are very beautiful esp. the Rose was awesome:)

Ghost Particle said...

a good take jeevan, they never think of the children, and are more for what the society thinks. Well the society think this is junk, so junk it is, no matter the right or wrong. Anything and evreything from religious conversion to divorce/ marriage affects children who doesnt have the mental maturity to make decisions and understand life. Part of growing pain, and part more sins of the parents/ exparents.

And yes Keshi, karma will get them VERY soon, I hope.

tulipspeaks said...

first, i wanna apologize for the delay in replying to the comment. been busy with another project. glad to see various views on this topic :)

@ gp

money for one party and lust for the other.

okie.. i had that in my mind. u r right that this may not be the best example but was just trying to point the issue out.

hopefully one day you write something closer to our hearts and culture to explore the marriage as a definitive cultural basis for all Indians.

thats a cool idea. neram varum pothe yeluthuren :)



@ keshi

One day his karma will pay him back.

we gotto wait for another couple of years to see how the karma pays him back. and its the same for any man who wanna dump their wife for a younger ones.

saw u in saree.. for the first time :) and thanks for the mail.

some of the pics from CH were taken by me, some by my bro. my pics? :P its in she-shines.


=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ fleiger

good views :)

the tea plantations were the best part of my trip. it was so cool and the greens were so pleasing to the eyes. imagine having a hot cup of tea with those hills as ur backdrop. amazing! :)



@ stranger

ah.. u r nearby huh? :)

this one marriage may seem personal. but what if many cases follow this example? as for now, the issue of young girls marrying old men is even being debated in the Parliment. my personal opinion, in the long run, this may become a trend and family institution will no longer be an institution.



by they way.. i love to get in love to love with heart and soul but unfortunate.... love had not lvoe to love me

read this couple of times but i still dont get it. mind explaining?

=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ invincible

after soooooooo long... yipppeeee!!!

thanks honey.



@ vinesh

welcome to tulipspeaks and thanks :)

=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ visithra

u have one of the most different view probably that of a small percentage of Malaysians, my girl..

:) photo credits goes to my bro espl the berry and the butterfly.



@ praveen

kekekeke.. tension agathinge ma.



=ammu=

tulipspeaks said...

@ white forest

lolz.. did i mention thats one of my fav fruit?



@ jeevan

bcoz they feel their children are big enough and can handle it. espl with the dad churning out so much of money. little they realise children need their affection more than their money. i think gp has said it in a better way.

thanks :)

=ammu=

visithra said...

its probably coz i dont live in a black n white world - there is colour n ppl dont realise that

smiley said...

it could be love or lust or money... hopefully they will have a happily married life :)