Okie okie.. I don't wear miniskirts anymore (I used to.. *sighh!!) because I'm too fat (and ugly) in it. *hate to admit this to the world.. but got to speak some truth at some point nah? hehehehehehe

But I'm all for low neck tops/tunics/saree blouses! Oh yea.. I flaunt it!! It looks sexy and most importantly took away the unnecessary attention from my hips, for which I am glad for! Especially, a low neck saree blouse combined with see-through black/maroon/white saree!! Whoa!! and I am very sure there are a lot of girls out there with similar taste. See, even a geek like me talks about fashion nowadays!! ;)

I know what is the difference between being sexy and being naked okie?? So, there is no need for me to 'regret' or 'ashamed' of what I wear. First of all, it is no one's concern of what I wear. I know how to cover up when I visit temples. I know how to dress up for work, and I definitely know my limits. So, what's with the rolling eyes, boys?



*Especially dedicated for the dungu who seems to enjoy leaving messages in my flickr whenever he sees a cleavage.


Before I have someone trashing me for the post, just wanna make something clear here.. as I always emphasized in all my other "so-what" posts, "I" or "me" in the post not necessarily refers to myself. The "so what" series are about women and issues surrounding them. I just put myself in their shoes and trying to make myself to feel and endure what they are going through.

Read my other post in the series: I'm not a virgin...so? | I'm dark-skinned...so? | I want a househusband...so? | I'm a Tamil ponnu... so? | I'm pretty... so? | I wear saree.. so?

I was going through my Flickr account, and found something thats rather amusing - my 7 most viewed photos are of me in saree! I made a collage of the top 5 as below. I know some people has Flickr with thousands of hits and this is nothing compared to theirs. But mind you - I don't belong to any Flickr groups and very few knows the existence of another Flickr account besides the one I use for posting the wallpapers.

I am puzzled. Of all the photos, why the ones in sarees become hit (relative to the others). I even had a hopeless obsessed 'fan' selecting all my photos in saree as his favourites and commenting in each photo. I had to block the dungu *sigghhh.. Apart from flickr, the friendster profile picture of me in a black saree (everyone's fav..i know) does 'attract' a lot of attention.



Now the trashing part...

So what if I wear saree? What difference does it make to anyone now? What if I had to wear a kutty blouse with it? Every gal who wears saree have to wear kutty blouse. So what is your problem? Does that make me to look sexy in your eyes? So what if I did? If its so difficult to pull your sight away from my waistline, you may want to consider pulling both your eyes off. Why saree is being seen as a sexy attire here? Because 'some' actresses wear it as if they don't know how to wear one? Or is it because you can see little bit of flesh over the waist? *remember Kushi?

Now don't come to me and say "ammu, could you please change your profile pic? its looking sexy." or "ammu, if you dont want to invite unwanted attention, you may want to remove your saree pics". I might ask you to go to hell. Beware!




Before I have someone trashing me for the post, just wanna make something clear here.. as I always emphasized in all my other "so-what" posts, "I" or "me" in the post not necessarily refers to myself. The "so what" series are about women and issues surrounding them. I just put myself in their shoes and trying to make myself to feel and endure what they are going through.

Read my other post in the series: I'm not a virgin...so? | I'm dark-skinned...so? | I want a househusband...so? | I'm a Tamil ponnu... so? | I'm pretty... so?

I'm pretty... I'm elegant... I'm stylish... I'm beautiful inside and out..

So what now?

Does that mean I have no brain? Dude... I'm sure my GK is far better than most of the people! Just because I like Christian Dior and Jimmy Choo, it doesn't make me just a bimbo.. I love to be pampered, it doesn't mean I'm not capable of challenges.. I have an eye on the macho guy at the next desk, it doesn't mean I have low moral values.. My walk invite other's attention, it doesn't mean I'm stooping low.. I have this thing for short skirts, it doesn't mean I wish you to look under it..


So what if I wanna be girlish? I'm a girl after all.. a pretty one in fact! Whoever feels beauties doesn't have brain either have no taste or no eyes. Why I wanna be bothered?
I have a class and I have guts. What more you wanna see?

Before I have someone trashing me for the post, just wanna make something clear here.. as I always emphasized in all my other "so-what" posts, "I" or "me" in the post not necessarily refers to myself. The "so what" series are about women and issues surrounding them. I just put myself in their shoes and trying to make myself to feel and endure what they are going through. So, please do not e-mail me (as usual) and ask if I'm still a virgin or not. And I apologize if I'm not visiting your blogs as usual, tied up with some 'work' here. Give me a day or two. Thanks ;)

Read my other post in the series: I'm not a virgin...so? | I'm dark-skinned...so? | I want a househusband...so? | I'm a Tamil ponnu... so?

This post is a part of 'so-what' series ..the fourth in the series after I'm not a virgin.. so? , I'm dark-skinned..so? and I want a househusband..so?
Have a good read and share your two cents :P

Oh yea, before reading further, I got a small reminder here. The post entitled I'm not a virgin.. so? which I wrote sometime ago, has nothing to do with ANYONE living or dead. Been receiving alot of 'enquries' about that post whenever i quote or link to it. Quite funny actually :P

I'm a Tamil ponnu*.. bcoz I speak, read and write in Tamil

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I was born in a Tamil family

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I hang out with Tamil girls all the time

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz saree is my favorite clothing and I normally take at least 2 hours to select one

I'm a Tamil ponnu.. bcoz I celebrate each and every Tamil festival you can find in the calendar

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I know who is Thiruvalluvar

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I'll be among the first to catch latest Rajini's (or Kamal's) flick in theatre..only in theatres

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I will only listen to either MinnalFM or Raaga*.

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I'm dark-skinned

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz I will go through a 1 1/2 hours of rigorous ceremony during my wedding

I'm a Tamil ponnu..bcoz eventually I'll be married off to a Tamil paiyan* as well


Nope..I am not saying all those points make me a Tamil ponnu. In fact, I'm still searching for the true meaning of being a Tamil ponnu. Now, tell me..what makes u a Tamilian? Or any clan you may belong to. Or did you find this whole clan thingy a joke? Share your thoughts with me.

*ponnu - girl
*paiyan - boy
*MinnalFM and Raaga - Malaysian Tamil radio channels

This post is a part of 'so-what' series ..the third in the series after I'm not a virgin.. so? and I'm dark-skinned..so? Have a good read and share your two cents :P

I'm a career-minded person. As for me, I came from a middle-class family with NO graduates in the family. I was the first to graduate and I intend to make the very best of it. I studied hard to make grades and even now, I'm still trying very hard to start a respectable career. Its not fair for someone to even expect me to throw away my hard-earned degrees out of the window and lock myself in the kitchen isn't it?

There was this local theatre drama which starred by just 2 people; husband and wife. The story revolves in the argument between them. The husband wants her to quit her job and look after the kids and (ahem) his mother and she, of course, has every logical point to continue her work. I can't help it but to put myself in that situation. Where would I be in 10 years time? hmm.. buying 2 trolleys full with groceries while dragging 2 kids with me? Waiting in queue to pay the bills? Spending hours and hours going through recipe books to cook 'something new' for an ever-demanding hubby? Looking at the mirror wondering what I can do to get back in shape despite the fact I am (was) a nutritionist?

No, this is not what I want. At least not exactly.

Then what I want? What I want to be? I want to be SUCCESSFUL - a class before the rest. I mean, I deserve to taste the fruit of my labour anyway. It isn't fair for someone to just barge in into my life and take away everything I wanted, everything I dreamed of. Its just NOT fair!

At the same time, I would love to have a family of my own. Alrite.. it may sound contradictory, but I love kids, I love being a wife, I love being a mother. I have this thing for twins. hmm.. I don't want to let go an opportunity to have a family because of my desire to be successful. I brought up my sis, my nieces and nephew, and I can tell u.. motherhood is a wonderful thing..may be expt the part where u got to drag them with u for shopping. Letting my kids to be raised by a maid????? No way!

So, whats the solution? A househusband that is. U call it a taboo? Let it be. But for me, I think I'm not demanding when I say I wanna a househusband. Womenfolk been housewives for centuries, probably since Paleolithic era. What if we change roles now?